Healing The Inner Child... Can You Forgive Past Experiences?

What Is Inner Child Healing?

Healing the inner child may be necessary for many of you... as there are things that have happened to you in childhood that you have not resolved. Many of these things are not necessarily in your day to day awareness. Yet they come up at times and you feel a great sadness, and an awareness that they need resolution.

By releasing the anxiety associated with the past, and the time when you were too young to have any control over your life, you can allow joy to flow in your life.

Healing the inner child is about healing the past. Once you are past your childhood years and you are an adult... many people operate life on auto-pilot.

The programming from your childhood years runs your life from there on....until you make a decision to change the programming, and heal the issues that are holding you back.

Past lives we may have lived are sometimes unknowingly the source of our distress.

Often we come into this life and choose to re-live a similar life, so we can heal these past life hurts. Within each of us we hold the memory of that child that we were... and that we still are at some level, so by healing the inner child we may resolve that past issue.

Process of Healing The Inner Child

To heal the inner child... an effective way is to use a series of steps within a meditation. You do this by going within and meeting your inner child. You ask the inner child to come forward and then you become a loving parent to yourself.

Amethyst are violet flame crystals which aid inner child healing

Often at this point you will find that a lot of old issues from your childhood will surface. As these issues come to your attention... it is essential that you respect the validity of the hurts experienced by the inner child (yourself).

And as you become aware of the issues you may be aware that there are people in your life now... or who have since passed over... who caused you hurt. It is important to forgive them.

Forgiveness is an imperative part of the process... for until you let go of the past you cannot move on with the present. Allow yourself to support the person you have become... and celebrate the journey you have been on... to get to where you are now. Be proud of who you are now and how you have moved on, and what you have achieved.

Which Crystals Aid Inner Child Healing

The use of crystals within the process is a wonderful support. If you have the following crystals they will aid the situation... but they are not essential. There are a range of crystals you might use... so be guided by your intuition. If you have any of them, use the ones you have and place as appropriate.

Place a Clear Quartz Crystal above your crown chakra... and if you are able to get a specific inner child crystal this will be a benefit. This is a crystal where a smaller crystal is embedded ... even embraced... within the larger. If you have an Amethyst Crystal put it at the third eye chakra, and at the throat chakra place a Blue Aragonite or alternatively use a piece of Blue Lace Agate.

Place a piece of Lepidocrocite in Quartz at the thymus chakra which will work with the beautiful green Dioptase or green Gaspeite anywhere within the heart chakra or higher heart chakra.

These stones have the vibration of forgiveness and compassion so it will be very beneficial to place either of these or both there in the region of the heart and higher heart chakras. Alternatively a lovely Pink Kunzite Crystal is also very beneficial there.

Put a Pink Rhodochrosite on the stomach at the solar plexus chakra, place a Green Chrysoprase on the stomach at the sacral chakra and a Smokey Quartz below the feet at the earth chakra.

Smokey Quartz serves a couple of purposes here. Firstly it is a stone that is powerful for protection and spiritual grounding. Secondly, it is also a stone to aid you to improve your emotions... so will help you at this time.... and as it is one of the quartz crystals it will amplify the energy of other stones as well.

Healing The Inner Child Meditation

The timing for doing this is important. Make this a time when you can give yourself at least an hour... and preferably arrange for no interruptions. If you are not sure how to do meditation, check out this article on easy meditation techniques and then return back here to do the meditation.

It can be extremely emotionally draining, so allow yourself the time and be aware that you need to allow the process to happen. Lie down and set up the crystals as directed... and allow yourself to go into deep inner awareness.

This is the time to become a loving parent to yourself. See yourself as the adult and speak to your inner child. Allow the inner child to come forward and take over... and give the inner child permission to bring the memories to the forefront of your mind.

Allow The Inner Child To Speak To You

Listen to what the inner child says however unreasonable. Some of what comes into your mind at this point may seem illogical but just allow yourself to go fully with the process. Expect anger to surface and allow the tears to flow. This is part of the process of healing the inner child... and will aid your healing.

Maybe at the beginning the child will not speak so just relax and allow it to be silent. Once it does speak, validate its hurts and its feelings. It is important that you allow that child to 'hold the floor'. Each of us needs to know that we can let go... so allow yourself to let this child take control.

As you stop letting the inner parent tell you that you are less than you know you are.... you can let go of any shame, judgment or fear you feel about the past. These emotional wounds from the past need to be healed.

You are probably hankering to allow yourself to have more loving relationships.... and the most important relationship you can have is with yourself. It is possible there will be a battle going on inside your head.... and you may imagine scenarios that are not real. Just go with whatever you feel until you reach a point where you can develop a loving relationship with the wounded parts of yourself.

If you have a piece of the green Dioptase crystal, hold it in your hand... to boost the vibration within yourself of forgiveness.

Respect the validity of the views of the inner child. Love your inner child show them in a loving way that they are very loved. Allow yourself at last to step away from the inner child... as you accept who you are now.

Your full validation of who you are now, and the gifts and talents you possess, is important.

Healing The Inner Child Process

The whole healing the inner child process is very powerful, and can be done more than once. It may take a few times to work through all of the issues you have. Use any or all of the crystals after the meditation.

Use or wear Amethyst Crystals like the one in the image to the right to help you to handle any sadness and grief that may come up, after you have done the 'healing the inner child' meditation.

Green Chrysoprase crystals will bring through feelings of love and of forgiveness.... both of yourself and others.... as you let go of ego based negativity, associated with co-dependant relationships.

Dioptase is powerful for allowing you to experience compassion and forgiveness. Rose Quartz will aid you to feel more balanced and more loving as you deal with any relationship issues.

Use any of these crystals mentioned above each day in meditation... and if possible keep them on your body. If this is not possible put them under your pillow to ensure ongoing healing.

If you are stressed and would like to learn how to use EFT tapping, which is also commonly called meridian tapping, to ease stress... check out my article on my health site, about how does stress affect your overall health, and using EFT to help you.

In Summary

Healing the inner child is a process that almost all of you need to do... as you all have some problems from your childhood that you need to resolve. You will find that as you allow yourself to forgive, not only others but also yourself you will find a major improvement in your life.

You don't need to completely resolve all the issues all at once, but by being proactive with the process you will help yourself to move to a better place emotionally. If you'd like to discover how to be proactive, rather than reactive... check out this article at Personal Goal Setting.com to learn more about this subject.